This was a very special wedding. The bride (my wife and I) and her family were married at the beautiful and intimate St. Michael’s Church in the summer of 2005. After a long and wonderful time together, they were blessed with one of the most wonderful weddings that I have ever seen.
It’s not often that you get to meet and marry your soon-to-be-ex-wife in person, and since they were the only ones who could afford the $5,000 wedding, we were very fortunate. We were all very excited about the day, and it was so special that we were able to do something special for the young couple.
Of course, the day was a total disaster.
I’m not saying that it was a total disaster because the day went exactly as planned. It was just that the day was so…well, it was so different from what we usually do for weddings, I can’t even describe it. It was more like a family or a wedding but with lots of people. We had to make reservations at a wedding venue because of all the people who were coming to the wedding.
People have been doing weddings for years, but it’s been a little more formal and less intimate. It’s a little more common to see a bride and groom walk down the aisle together and have a small reception afterwards. Nowadays people usually have a more casual dinner in the middle of the night after the ceremony is done. This style of wedding is what we’re going for.
The problem is that wedding reception venues are often the last places in the world that you’ll find people. Even if the wedding does happen, the last few feet of a normal party are often too much for anyone to handle. For example, when I was getting married in Australia, my friend had her entire family in her wedding party. That’s just too much to manage. This is why we were going to a venue that is an actual restaurant.
The problem with a traditional wedding that has so many guests and the food is so expensive is that even if you plan for the night, you also have to plan for the day. That means your wedding will likely last longer than you think it will. And if you were to invite guests to your wedding, they would probably be in such a rush to get to the reception that they would eat dinner without you getting a chance to sit next to them.
We’re talking about a wedding, not a bar mitzvah. We also had the same problem with a wedding that was being held in the house of a friend. The night before the wedding, a guest said that he wasn’t getting a chance to talk to his family because he had to get ready for a bar mitzvah.
I can’t remember what they were, but I do know that the bar mitzvah was a bit of a letdown. While the evening was certainly exciting, we were all feeling that we were being led down the wrong path.
Why do we feel this way though? Well, we’re used to the occasional bar mitzvah or wedding that we really didn’t want to attend. We’re used to weddings and weddings that involve a lot of guests. But a bar mitzvah is kind of like a prom. It’s just a nice dinner and a pretty photo, but it’s also a chance to get engaged and be a part of your own wedding party.
